What My Daughter’s Birth Story Taught Me About Life

In starting this blog I also wanted to show a more true perspective of what life looks like outside of the pretty pictures. There is so much more to life than what we see in photos. The story behind each photo, the life, happiness, and pain all of us experience. Life, as I have learned, is a journey of good times with struggles in between. I have learned so much in the last few years. To not take things for granted, that your perspective can change everything. My youngest daughter’s birth story taught me so much about life. That the plan I have in my head is not where my life is going to take me. But with challenges in life, there is beauty and growth. Today I will be sharing my daughter’s birth story. It’s nowhere near where I planned it to be but I am so grateful for the perspective and outcome this gave me.

What My Daughter’s Birth Story Taught Me About Life:

When I found out as I was having another girl my heart was OVERJOYED. I dreamed of the life my girls would have as sisters. The beautiful relationship I would have with my youngest daughter. I remember how much I couldn’t wait to meet this amazing little one our family had been blessed with. Little did I know the struggle and plan that God would have for us in this story. It was about to unfold, and it looked nothing like what I had pictured at all.

I was 36 weeks pregnant when I decided to load my youngest daughter and me up in the car for some errands. Little did I know my life was about to change. Fast forward 30 minutes to us sitting on the freeway with traffic completely stopped and a semi truck hauling a tractor coming up too fast behind us that wasn’t going to stop. It seemed like for a moment I was in a movie. That I was actually watching the accident from afar. I braced for impact from the semi truck. I know an angel was looking over us. We closely came to colliding with multiple other cars but safely ended up not hitting additional cars. Flash forward an hour to us sitting in the hospital waiting to make sure our unborn daughter was okay. Thankfully my almost two year old was rear facing securely in her car seat and sustained no injuries. I, on the other hand, had placenta abruption from the accident and test results revealed I was internally bleeding from my placenta 7x higher than what they had hoped for, and my placenta was tearing away from my uterus. 30 hours later I had a terrifying delivery of my youngest daughter.

Her cry was the most beautiful thing I have ever heard. It was something I waited so desperately to hear. The fear and emotion came out. I go back and watch her birth video and see her first breath on this earth. How grateful I am for that moment. That moment time froze nothing in the world mattered but that cry at that moment. That she was okay and my other daughter was okay. My motherly protective instinct took over. The next year would include a lot of tears, more doctors visits for her than I have ever gone to in my whole life, gratefulness, and a whole lot of strength I never knew I had inside of me from this car accident. I know God has an incredible plan for my daughter. Her life was fragile for a moment but she was so strong. God created her with an incredible heart and personality and I am so lucky to be her Mother. My favorite verse which rings so true for both of my daughters is Jeremiah 29:11. I know the incredible plan that he had for her, her sister, my Husband, and me as her Mom. She was fearfully and wonderfully made. I can’t count my blessings enough of how blessed I am that she was able to go home with us. My heart hurts deeply for Mothers who don’t experience getting to take their little ones home.

I have come to realize our perspective is everything in life. Life will throw challenges at us but looking with a grateful heart and a different perspective makes all the difference. Also recognizing all the beautiful things you have in your life is so important. Our life can change abruptly, do not take things you have been blessed with for granted.

Sometimes our life plan doesn’t look like anything we thought.

What I have learned about life through my Daughter’s birth story:

1). Be Grateful For What You Have Today.

2). Perspective is Everything.

3). Through Pain Can Come Growth – If you let it.

4). You Are Going To Be Okay When Things Don’t Go As Planned. Even if it doesn’t seem like you are.

5). Our plan is different than God’s plan a lot of the times. Relying on him through those challenging times is the best thing that we can do. He will carry us through. Isaiah 43:2

6). What matter’s most in life is truly your relationships with loved ones and God. I would have given up anything in my life at that moment to make sure my daughters were okay.

In sharing this I know we all have moments in our life where it doesn’t look like our plan. It’s what we do in those moments after that count and matter.

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